Safety Rules for Parents
NETWORKING Just as networking is the heart of Neighborhood Watch, networking with other parents is the best way to know what’s going on. Know where your children are, who they’re with, their friends and their parents, and what they’re doing. Set up a "safe house" in your neighborhood where children can go in an emergency.
OTHER CHILDREN OR ADULTS Know who is communicating with your children. Control computer activity. In numerous abduction cases, victims received E-mails, calls and letters from strangers unknown to parents. Be especially sensitive to adults or teenagers who are spending an unusual amount of time with your child or giving them unexplained gifts.
NAMES Keep visible children’s names off clothing and backpacks. This invites predators to call the child by name, creating a false sense of familiarity and trust.
CODE WORDS Don’t use code words. Children forget them in panic situations and predators are masters at playing games to find them out.
AWARENESS Pedophiles generally collect pictures of children. They often have youth-oriented decorations in their homes. Some homes have been described as miniature amusement parks.
PLAN AHEAD Go over every "what if" problem you can think of with your children. What if someone wants you to help them find their dog? What if a repair man wants to come into the house? Teach kids to say NO, to be assertive. Practice with them on how to get away from people. When grabbed at the wrist, children should pull down and twist their arms.
BUDDY SYSTEM Urge your children to use the buddy system, never go anywhere alone, or take short cuts through isolated areas.
AUTOS Never leave children alone in automobiles. Establish strict procedures for picking up children from schools and activities. Don’t let children accept rides from anyone with whom you have not made arrangements, even if they say they are teachers or police officers.
LISTEN, WATCH, BELIEVE, AND TALK LISTEN carefully to your child who may be expressing fear of somebody or something. WATCH for changes in behavior, withdrawal, or crying. BELIEVE them, take them seriously. COMMEND them for talking to you. TALK with them, calmly, without scolding or anger. Kids who talk with their families are safer kids.
NEVER BELIEVE IT CAN’T HAPPEN IN YOUR COMMUNITY It can!
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Safety Rules for Children
ALWAYS notify parents of where they’re going, who they’ll be with, and when they’ll return. They should never go anywhere alone or enter a car with any person that parents haven’t deemed OK. They should never enter anyone’s home while selling cookies or allow anyone into their own home while alone.
GIFTS Pedophiles often offer young children toys, candy, or money in an effort to lure them into situations where they become trapped. They offer older children sports equipment, CD’s, or modeling jobs. Children should never accept gifts without first checking with parents.
LOST If children become separated from parents in a public place, they should stop, look in 4 different directions for their guardian, then ask a cashier for help (who usually can’t leave the station). At the beach they should first look for a lifeguard, then mothers with children, or a group of people. A child should know by the age of 4 his parents full name and how to dial 911. All parents should have a plan of action for these situations.
ANIMALS Animals are powerful attractions for children. In the guise of looking for a lost pet, talking about a child’s own pet, or offering to see the perpetrators pet, molesters have lured willing children into autos and buildings.
ASKING FOR HELP Children should be wary of adults asking them for help, and should not get close to any car while alone. They have been grabbed by adults calling them over to a car to ask for directions.
PORNOGRAPHY Children should notify parents or authority figures immediately if they are ever asked to have their picture taken by someone, (even fully dressed), or if they are shown pornographic pictures, videos, or computer images.
TOUCHING Children should be taught that it is against the law for ANYONE except a trusted family doctor to touch them in a way that is not OK, or anywhere that a bathing suit covers. They should also be taught that people who ask them to keep secrets from their parents are not safe to be with.
HEROES AND AUTHORITY FIGURES Pedophiles often pose as sports figures or uniformed security guards or police officers to gain access to children. Any legitimate policeman will have a car nearby or will honor a request to have his credentials checked via a phone call.
EMERGENCIES Children panic when they hear of an emergency in their family, and will generally follow someone who bears this news. Plan ahead with spouses, neighbors or friends on who will contact your children in case of an emergency.
MOST IMPORTANT Convicted sex offenders have indicated that WHAT SCARED THEM MOST WAS A CHILD MAKING A SCENE. THEREIN LIES THE MOST IMPORTANT THING A CHILD SHOULD BE TAUGHT TO DO IF CAUGHT IN A TRAPPED SITUATION - SCREAM, YELL, KICK, BITE, RUN! MORE KIDS GET AWAY BY THIS METHOD THAN ANY OTHER! It is also generally true that, even with a weapon, an abductor will not shoot, at least at the scene of the abduction, for fear of someone hearing. All the more reason to get out of there as fast as you can!
TEENAGERS Teenagers and even college students should be cautious of job opportunities where interviews are held in remote places, by unknown companies, or advertised with just a post office box. Predators often use lures of modeling jobs or talent auditions which take place in remote rural areas or in hotels. And MOST IMPORTANT, sixth graders through teenagers, unlike younger children, are too smart, too dignified, or too cool to scream, kick and yell, which is often their only way out.
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